The Grief Club

Good evening. Wednesday blog.

The club no one asked for. To join, you have to suffer loss! Who would sign up for that? Membership is automatic, after losing someone you love. For clarity, we are not here by choice, it’s not exclusive! The only comfort, we are not alone! We can choose to reach out, and be open, if someone reaches out to us! I think we can all find comforting words for someone in pain. Both sides of the fence can be comforted. I know for me, I want to comfort other widows! “The Grief Club” is also a lonely club. Friends that still have their spouses or partners, don’t know what to say, and that’s ok. I have been there also. No words! Words are not comforting anyway. You cannot talk this kind of pain away. Not now or 10 years from now. I am resigned to the fact, this is my new way of life. I don’t have to like it. I am in Gods hands,and it’s not my time. I found myself through recovery, outside of Denny then, and our family, it is the best thing I have ever done and chose to do. It gave me and showed me a clear path to what we were facing together and what I wanted and needed to do for him, Denny. God has been our lead. I need him every minute. No regrets! Regret is crippling. One could get stuck there. When the waves of pain seem unbearable, ride the waves out, it doesn’t last. Calm waters always come back, until the next wave. A ripple or a tsunami, it does not last. I don’t let it take over! There was a time, a long period of time, I thought and felt, if anything happened to Denny, I would die from it, my life would be over! That simply is not true. Praise God for healing power. My lifeline, my anchor, my life preserver. God keeps me safe from drowning! I just want all of you, spouse, partner, significant other to know, I would never wish this on anyone. But, we all know one of us will face it. It’s pain that cuts like a chainsaw. I cannot stress enough, appreciate the person you are with. Cherish them. Even with their imperfections, no one is perfect. You must have been a perfect fit. Percentage wise, even the marriages and unions together, that are not happy, grieve and are in pain. Then add regret, guilt, and the never ending what if? That will never be answered. We only get one life, it’s only to far gone when you stop breathing. I had my recovery appointment with my therapist on FaceTime. Everything has a reason, might not find out anything until Heaven. I have no regrets! I got well, I took care of Denny, like I promised. I miss him with everything in me. That disease was the path God put us on, Denny’s pain is over and ours will remain with us until we are joined together by God! This to shall pass. His plan is perfect. Good night. God bless.❤️🤗🙏🏻🤗❤️