Blended Families

Good morning! Monday blog! I believe this is a very important one! In light of writing about Anniversaries and long marriages, I wrote Blended Families last evening! we also have our share of divorce and remarriage, which can create a blended family! Denny and I are such a family! Yours, mine, and ours! My Denny is a man with a big heart, he made mine his! We became a family of six, every weekend! I did not stop to think of how hard that is on all levels, especially the children! I did know right from the start, we were a package deal! His two girls, my boy and we had a girl together! Happily ever after! Remember, Denny and I both, are bipolar! Not always thinking rationally! Throw in some extra baggage, like anger, distrust, rebellion! The list could go on and on, and it did get longer! If you are one that sees or feels these things seem to be a part of life! I urge you to seek help in blending your family! That does not make you a weak person or unloving! Sometimes personalities just bounce off of each other! Taking on even the part time blended family, is not for the faint of heart! The waters can get rough! You need to be very careful with words! These things can leave lasting heart and soul scars! I’m sure I am guilty! I love Denny’s girls, they are mine also in many ways! I’ve seen them through all of the milestones and many more to come! Denny loved my boy right from the start and so did the girls! My boy started calling Denny daddy right from the start! He was only two! The girls, eight and nine! Ours together came almost two years after we were married! You get the picture! You might have the same story! Whether by divorce or death, you acquired a blended family or took on a whole new role! It is a high calling! Even if one remarries, with adult children, special occasions will throw you all in the same pot! Let’s not forget, with blended families comes the other real parent! Yikes! You need to be prepared for that one! You can make peace, you can show loving kindness! Do not leave your children thinking they have to choose between all of the people they love and want to be loyal to! Or that they created the problem! Tough decisions! So, in my not perfect life, I caution you about divorce, it does not take care of problems or erase them! It is a bigger problem, tossed on top of your pile of problems! Divorces and blending families can be very sticky and messy, depending on what choices are being made! Once again, I am no expert! I have been there, I listen to other people’s stories! Put all of those stories in one house, you will either have, A Fiction, A Cartoon, A Comedy, A Drama, A Tragedy, A Novel, An Animation! Or A Best Seller about change, love and forgiveness and acceptance! You choose! I have been every title here! Who knows, I’m sure I was called a few other things! I have made many mistakes on my path! I have also made peace with it! I want to be remembered, long after I’m gone, for putting others first, especially my husband Denny and his needs, for practicing my wedding vows, for smiling, even through tears, for being joyful and happy in adversity, for loving Jesus, for having faith, for being positive, for loving, accepting, forgiving, being strong, compassionate, showing humility, being an overcomer, giving, someone who people can count on, grateful, thankful, appreciative! On and on the list goes! I will never attain all of these, but, I won’t stop trying! I love Jesus, I love my family! God bless! Have a wonderful day and thank God for something!❤️🤗🤗❤️